Do You Fuel or Diffuse Drama

This week in our Drop The Drama Online Community, we are discussing how we all have the potential to be a Drama Queen. We can either rule at creating drama or diffusing it.

This month we are exploring the topic of personality and its role in fueling or diffusing drama.

Understanding my inner Drama Queen and the way I relate to conflict through strengths and weaknesses of my personality has been such a valuable tool in my life that I wanted to share this with you all.

We all have ways in which our personality traits can serve us or work against us depending upon the context from which those traits are being expressed.

Unhealthy expression of our traits can lead us into conflict and drama, and healthier expressions of the same traits can lead us toward resolution and connection. 

Consider how you have fueled drama in the past by creating or avoiding conflict. Either tendency ends up creating drama because it invites others to react to your aggression or avoidance. Understanding how your personality can be used to create or diffuse drama gives you options when conflict arises. I want to share two resources to help you see yourself in action and offer you options for shifting out of drama.

Resource #1: A link to my personality rubric of choice, the Enneagram. I like the Enneagram because its purpose is not to label and hold us in place, but to look at the healthy and unhealthy version of our personality traits as a path to being the fullest most radiant version of ourselves. It helps us to move beyond the limitation of clinging to our personality, letting it run us; and toward the freedom of expressing the healthy version of ourselves through the strengths of our personality. This is a link to an online test you can take to see what number you are on the Enneagram.

Resource #2: An article I wrote about how unhealthy versions of our personality traits can attract/create toxic interactions: How The Personality Traits In Your Enneagram Type Might Be Attracting Toxic Relationships and How To Stop It

If this was useful and you would like to join the group conversation about diffusing drama, check out our Drop The Drama Community.

As always, I would love to hear your thoughts or questions. So please feel free to reach out to me at

About Michelle Thompson

I'm Michelle Thompson. As a child growing up in a small town on in New England, my life was peaceful and happy - filled with love, respect and room to develop into who I wanted to be. With this foundation, I was set on creating the same thing for my own family one day. 25 Years and five children later, the road to my dream was A LOT bumpier than I had anticipated and there was a time in my life when I felt like I was powerless to change my experience until one day I “woke up” and decided something had to change. I use my own personal journey to help my clients thrive as individuals and help create happy families.